Hello, darling welcome back to the blog!

This morning started as most do in my house, with a delightful mix of chaos and crumbs. My little one decided that her yoghurt would look far better on the table than in her mouth, and I was left wondering why I bother wearing anything but a washable jumper. Somewhere between wiping sticky fingerprints off the fridge and reheating the same cup of tea for the third time, I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. And it wasn’t one of those quick checks for stray porridge on my face, it was one of those moments where you stop and think about the person staring back at you.

You see, there was a time when my reflection told a different story. My wardrobe choices were loud, bold, and often designed to make me feel seen, but deep down, I wasn’t always proud of the story they told. Back then, I thought that confidence came from showing more, turning heads, or keeping up with whatever the latest trend was. But here’s the thing about God: He has a way of gently stepping into those places we think we’ve hidden well and lovingly redirecting us.

Today, I want to share how He’s done exactly that in my life, reshaping not just my wardrobe but my heart. Modesty isn’t just about rules or restrictions; it’s about living a life that honours Him in every aspect. And let me tell you, it’s been a journey full of surprises, grace, and even a few fashion fails (because not everything in the “modest fashion” category is a winner—trust me).

So, whether you’re curious about what modesty looks like, need some practical tips to dress with grace and elegance, or you’re just here for a bit of encouragement, grab a warm drink (hopefully warmer than my perpetually cold tea), and keep reading. And who knows? By the end, you might just find yourself looking in the mirror with a fresh perspective too.

How the Lord Delivered Me from Promiscuity

I grew up in a world where the focus was often on physical appearance, and I struggled with the desire to be admired, desired, and seen. I can remember times when I dressed in a way that was meant to draw attention to my body, to feel good about myself, and to get the affirmation I thought I needed. But even though I got the attention I wanted, it never filled the emptiness inside. There was always a sense of dissatisfaction that followed.

It wasn’t until I gave my life completely to Christ that I began to see things differently. As I grew in my faith, the Holy Spirit began to let me know about how I was using my body, and I started to understand that my worth wasn’t found in how others perceived me, but in how God saw me.

I realised that the more I focused on God and His plans for my life, the less I wanted to seek validation from others. I wanted to reflect God’s love and grace, not just in my heart, but in how I presented myself. Through prayer and reflection, God began to shift my mindset, and I started to dress with more modesty, not because I was trying to follow a set of rules, but because I wanted my outward appearance to match the purity of my heart.

Modesty is More Than Just Clothing

It’s important to remember that modesty isn’t just about the clothes we wear; it’s about our hearts and how we carry ourselves. Modesty encompasses our speech, behaviour, and attitudes as well. It’s about living in a way that reflects God’s love and grace. This is something I’ve learned over time, and I’ve come to appreciate that modesty is an act of obedience to God, not a means of gaining approval from the world.

I’ve also realised that modesty can be elegant, fun, and fashionable. The world often associates modesty with being boring or unfashionable, but I’m here to tell you that’s not the case! There are so many stylish and beautiful ways to dress modestly, and cherishing modesty doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your style.

Tips for Dressing with Grace and Elegance

If you’re looking to dress more modestly but don’t know where to start, here are some tips that have worked for me:

1. Start with a Simple Foundation

Modesty doesn’t have to mean frumpy or outdated clothing. You can start with simple, classic pieces that you can mix and match. Think midi skirts, high-waisted pants, and tops with a bit more coverage. These pieces are not only timeless, but they also provide a great base for creating modest outfits that still feel modern and chic.

2. Choose Fabrics That Flow

One of the things I love about modest fashion is the elegance that comes with loose-fitting, flowy fabrics. Instead of clothes that cling to the body, choose fabrics like chiffon, linen, or cotton that provide coverage while still looking sophisticated. These fabrics move beautifully and can make any outfit look elegant.

3. Layer with Purpose

Layering can be a great way to add more coverage and style to your outfits. A light cardigan or a stylish blazer can add elegance to a simple dress or top. Don’t be afraid to experiment with layers to create more modest looks without compromising on style.

4. Accessories

Accessories are a fantastic way to elevate any modest outfit. A bold necklace, a delicate pair of earrings, or a cute scarf can add personality to your look while keeping things modest. Just be sure to keep it balanced so that your accessories enhance your outfit without overpowering it.

5. Covering Up in the Right Places

When dressing modestly, it’s all about balance. A high-neck top paired with a knee-length skirt can be just as fashionable as a more revealing outfit. The key is to cover up in a way that makes you feel comfortable and confident without drawing unnecessary attention to certain parts of your body.

6. Avoid the Skin Show

Modesty isn’t just about how much skin you show, it’s also about your intentions. There’s nothing wrong with wearing form-fitting clothes, but we need to be mindful of our reasons for doing so. I’ve learned to ask myself, “Is this outfit making me feel confident because of my relationship with God, or is it because I want attention from others?” It’s a practice that helps me stay grounded in my faith.

 

Choosing modesty isn’t always easy, but it’s a decision I make every day to honour God with my body. It’s not about following a trend or trying to fit into a certain mould; it’s about aligning my outward appearance with the change happening in my heart.

I know that my journey of modesty is still unfolding, and I continue to learn more about what it means to dress with grace and elegance. The Lord has delivered me from a life of seeking validation through my body, and I’m so grateful for the freedom I’ve found in Him. I hope that my story encourages you on your journey of modesty, and I pray that you’ll find peace and joy in expressing your faith through your fashion choices.

Remember, you are beautiful just the way God created you, and modesty is a reflection of the beauty within. Let’s continue to honour Him in everything we do, including how we dress.

Can I just say how much I love these moments where we can sit (virtually, anyway) and share our hearts? Writing this has been a beautiful reminder of how patient and loving God is in shaping us into the women He’s called us to be.

For me, modesty has become so much more than just what I wear. It’s a daily reminder that my worth isn’t tied to trends, approval, or how well I can pull off an outfit. It’s rooted in the unwavering truth that I am His, fully known and fully loved. And while my wardrobe has changed over the years (goodbye, sky-high heels and sequins galore), the biggest change has been in my heart.

Of course, not every day is perfect. There are still moments when I stare at my wardrobe like it’s plotting against me or wish I could squeeze in just five more minutes to pull myself together before rushing out the door. And then there are days when my little one decides she’s my stylist, accessorising me with whatever toy she can find. But through it all, I’m learning to dress not just for comfort or style but as a reflection of who I’m becoming in Christ.

Thank you for sharing this space with me today. I hope this post has encouraged you, made you smile, and maybe even give you a fresh perspective on modesty. Remember, God’s not just working on your wardrobe—He’s working on your heart, your confidence, and your purpose.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, a yoghurt-covered toddler is demanding my attention and a cup of tea begging to be finished. Until next time, my darling—keep dressing with grace and shining for Him.

Sending blessings to you!

Scherise. X