Hello darling,
Welcome back to the blog! Today’s blog post is a little different. Normally, I sit in various spots to write, sometimes in my conservatory, other times downstairs in the living room, or even in my office. But today, I’m writing from somewhere completely new: my daughter’s bedroom. She’s peacefully snoozing in her cot, enjoying her morning nap, and as much as I usually take this time to clean or cook, today I decided to do something a little different. I decided to rest and take a moment to write instead. It’s a short and sweet blog post, but I just felt like sharing this little piece of my world with you. I hope you enjoy it!
There’s something incredibly powerful about surrendering our desires, fears, and uncertainties to God. It’s not an easy thing to do. In fact, it’s one of the hardest things to do. But with that being said I am choosing to put my desire to have a meaningful, healthy, loving, peaceful, thoughtful, fun, enjoyable, honest, open, transparent, vulnerable, and purposeful relationship, marriage, and family into God’s hands. It has been a journey of learning to trust Him in every area of my life—my relationships, my work, and even the desires I hold dear. Surrendering these things isn’t always easy, but I know that God has a plan for me, and His plan is far better than anything I could create on my own.
In every area of my life—my relationships, my career, my personal goals, and even my dreams—I’ve come to realise that God’s plan is far better than anything I could create on my own. And while it might take time to truly let go, I’ve found that it’s in those moments of surrender that I grow deeper in my relationship with Him.
For years, I carried the weight of my own expectations, trying to control outcomes and make things happen in my time. But in doing so, I often felt anxious, overwhelmed, and uncertain. I couldn’t figure out why things weren’t aligning the way I wanted, or why my plans seemed to fall short. But when I began to trust God and allow Him to guide me, I began to understand that His timing is perfect, and His ways are far beyond mine.
1. Acknowledge the Need to Let Go
The first step in this journey of surrender is acknowledging that you can’t control everything. There was a time when I thought I could, or at least should, handle everything on my own. It felt like if I didn’t push hard enough if I didn’t plan every detail, things wouldn’t turn out right. But the truth is, life doesn’t always work the way we think it should. And that’s okay.
Acknowledging that we can’t control the outcome frees us to trust God more fully. It’s an act of humility to say, “God, I can’t do this on my own, but I trust You.” It’s in these moments of vulnerability that we invite Him into every area of our lives, knowing that He will provide for us in ways that are often beyond what we can even imagine.
2. Pray Honestly and Openly
Sometimes, I found myself praying the same thing over and over, asking for clarity, wisdom, and peace. It wasn’t always that I needed an immediate answer, but I needed to bring my feelings, fears, and desires to God in complete honesty.
When I was uncertain about a decision or worried about a relationship, I’d simply pray and say, “God, I don’t know what to do. Please guide me.” It’s in those moments of vulnerability when I don’t have all the answers, that I feel the comfort and peace of knowing that I don’t have to have it all figured out.
3. Release Control
Letting go doesn’t just mean handing over the reins to God, it also means releasing control over things that no longer serve you. I’ve realised that sometimes the hardest part of surrendering is letting go of the desire to control the outcome. Whether it’s trying to control my relationships, work situations, or even my future, it often leads to stress and frustration.
But the more I surrendered, the more I realized that trying to control everything only added weight to my shoulders. God wants to take that burden from us, and the act of releasing control is a reminder that He is the ultimate guide in every circumstance.
4. Trust God’s Timing
One of the hardest things I’ve had to learn is that God’s timing is not my timing. In the past, I often found myself rushing toward the next big thing, wishing for quicker results or immediate answers. But I’ve learned that waiting on God’s timing is not a sign of weakness—it’s an act of faith.
There have been times when I wanted things to happen faster. I wanted my relationships to deepen, my career to grow, and my personal goals to be realized. But when I stepped back and let go of the pressure to make things happen, I began to trust that God’s plan was unfolding at exactly the right pace.
Trusting His timing means accepting that sometimes things take longer than we anticipate—and that’s okay. In fact, that waiting period often prepares us for what’s to come, deepening our character and our faith.
5. Healing from Past Hurts
Another aspect of surrendering is letting go of past hurts. I know I’m not the only one who has carried pain from past experiences—whether it was from relationships, work disappointments, or personal failures. Those wounds can weigh heavily on our hearts, and it’s tempting to hold onto them, thinking that we have to protect ourselves from getting hurt again.
But healing comes when we surrender those hurts to God. When I gave my pain over to Him, I found that He was able to heal the wounds I didn’t even know I still carried. God has a way of restoring us in ways we never imagined possible. When we release the pain and allow God to do the work of healing, we make room for peace to fill the spaces that were once occupied by bitterness and resentment.
6. Gratitude
Another important practice I’ve learned in this process is to focus on gratitude. Instead of dwelling on what I don’t have or what’s not going the way I imagined, I began to focus on what God has already provided. Gratitude shifts our perspective and reminds us of His goodness.
I’ve found that when I’m grateful for the blessings I already have, it becomes easier to trust God with the things I’m still waiting on. Gratitude also helps me celebrate the successes of others without feeling threatened or jealous because I know that God’s plan for me is unique. I don’t have to compare my journey to anyone else’s.
7. Find Peace in Surrender
Ultimately, surrendering isn’t about giving up or losing hope—it’s about finding peace in knowing that God is in control. I’m still learning what it means to surrender fully, and it’s an ongoing process. But the more I trust God with my fears, my desires, and my future, the more I experience His peace.
And that peace is something that surpasses all understanding. It’s a peace that comes from knowing that we are not alone, that God is always with us, and that He is faithful to lead us through every season of life.
8. Surround Yourself with Support
Sometimes, we need others to help us remember to trust God’s timing and surrender our worries. Surrounding myself with faith-filled people has been a huge support in this process. Friends, family, or mentors who encourage me in my faith and help me stay grounded in God’s Word have been invaluable. When I doubt or feel unsure, I can lean on their prayers and wisdom, knowing I’m not walking this journey alone.
9. Keep Your Eyes on God’s Promises
When doubts arise, I remind myself of God’s promises. His Word is filled with assurances that He is with us, that He is for us, and that He works everything for our good. Trusting in His promises helps me stay focused on His faithfulness, even in the moments when things don’t make sense.
God has a purpose for each of us, and even when the path seems unclear, we can trust that He is guiding us toward something greater. Letting go and giving it all to God is an act of faith that opens the door to His perfect will for our lives.
Have you ever faced a significant change in your life? How did it challenge you to let go? What scriptures have inspired you during times of change? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!
Sending blessings to you!
Scherise. X
