Hello Darling,

Welcome back to the blog! As a Christian Woman, it can sometimes feel challenging to find friends who share your faith and values, but trust me, your Godly community is out there! I’ve been on a journey to build authentic friendships with other Christians, and I’ve learned a lot along the way. If you’re searching for those meaningful connections, here are some tips on how to make Christian friends and surround yourself with a community that strengthens your walk with God.

1. Recognise the Signs

A Godly friendship is rooted in mutual respect, love, and a desire to grow together in Christ. Look for green flags, such as:

• Shared Values: Do they prioritise their faith in their daily life? Are they supportive and encouraging?
• Fruit of the Spirit: Are they patient, kind, and loving? These qualities are often the best indicator of a Godly friendship.
• Spiritual Growth: A good Christian friend will inspire you to draw closer to God and will be there to help you when you stumble.

On the flip side, beware of red flags. Be cautious of friends who don’t respect your values, lead you away from Christ, or engage in toxic behaviours. Pay attention to the fruit in their life, do their actions match their words?

2. The Seasons

As much as I wish all my friendships could remain perfect forever, I’ve learned that friendships go through seasons. Sometimes, you may find yourself in a season of loneliness or waiting for the right people to come into your life. Don’t be discouraged! God knows exactly when you need to meet someone who will be a true friend. I’ve been through tough seasons of friendship, but I always hold on to the belief that God will provide. (and he has time and time again!)

3. Put Yourself Out There

Making friends requires stepping out of your comfort zone. Whether it’s signing up for a Bible study, attending a church event, or simply introducing yourself to someone new at your church, you have to be intentional about putting yourself in places where you can meet other Christians.

4. Prayer for Christian Friends

Before you even set foot in any social space, make prayer your first step. Ask God to guide you in finding the right friendships that align with His will. Prayer is a powerful tool, and I’ve seen firsthand how God answers those prayers when we trust Him.

5. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone and Around Other Christians

Sometimes, we stay in our bubbles, fearing rejection or just feeling too comfortable in familiar spaces. But to find Godly friends, you need to be around people who can build you up in your faith. Attend church events, join volunteer opportunities, or attend conferences or worship nights. It’s amazing how much closer you can get to God and new friends when you step outside of your comfort zone.

6. Where to Meet Christian Friends

You don’t have to look far to find a community of believers! Here are some great places to meet Christian friends:

• Church Services and Events: Regular attendance at church will naturally lead to meeting others who share your faith.
• The Peanut app: this is a great place to find other mums. You can also specify that you’re looking to connect with Christian mums, and you’ll find them there as well.
• Bible Studies or Prayer Groups: These smaller, more intimate settings are perfect for deepening relationships.
• Volunteer Opportunities: Serving others is a great way to meet like-minded Christians who are passionate about God’s work.
• Worship Nights or Conferences: You’ll connect with others who are passionate about growing in their faith and may find friends who share your interests.

7. Do It Afraid

I get it, making new friends can be intimidating, especially if you’re shy or suffer from social anxiety. But remember, sometimes you have to do it afraid. You may feel nervous, but don’t let that stop you from reaching out and forming new connections. It’s okay to be vulnerable and trust that God will equip you with the courage and the words you need.

8. What to Talk About

So, you’ve found someone who seems like a potential friend, now what? One thing I’ve learned is that Christian friendships are built on open, honest conversations about faith. Don’t be afraid to share your struggles, your joys, and your journey with God. Topics like Scripture, prayer, and how God is working in your life will always lead to meaningful and impactful conversations.

9. Going to a Worship Night

If you want to bond with new Christian friends, attending a worship night is one of the best ways to connect on a deep level. The atmosphere is full of praise, and worshipping together creates a powerful foundation for friendship. Worship nights often provide a natural setting for meeting people who are passionate about their faith.

10. Trust That Your Friends Are Out There

Above all, trust that God has the right friends in store for you. Don’t lose hope during lonely seasons. Whether it’s through a Bible study, a church opportunity, or just a random event, God has a way of bringing people into our lives when we least expect it. Be patient and stay faithful, your Godly friends are out there, and He’ll lead you to them.

Building God-centered friendships as a Christian woman takes time, effort, and trust in God’s plan. But when you put yourself out there and stay committed to growing in faith, He will provide the community you need. And remember, you’re not alone in this, praying for God to send you Godly friends can make all the difference. Keep seeking, keep praying, and trust that your community will come together at the right time.

Sending blessings your way!

Scherise. X