Hey darling,

Welcome back to the blog! Today has been one of those busy but good days. It’s a day when my daughter had a half-day at nursery, so we spent the morning together, which is always special. After giving her breakfast and getting her ready, I dropped her off and then headed out to run some errands. First, it was a quick trip to Tesco to pick up a few bits and pieces, and then I made my way to the gym for a 40-minute workout. Now I’m back home, taking a moment to sit down and write this post.

It feels good to pause after a busy morning, and today’s topic has been on my heart for a while. Relationships with our parents can be tough, can’t they? Whether it’s old wounds, unmet expectations, or just the complexities of family dynamics, navigating those relationships can feel overwhelming at times. But I truly believe that God can bring healing, peace, and wisdom into even the messiest situations.

So, grab a cup of tea or coffee, and let’s talk about this together. I hope this blog post encourages you and reminds you that you’re not alone.

For many of us, our parents were either physically present but emotionally unavailable or their behaviour has caused deep wounds that are hard to heal. I know this well. There’s a deep pain that comes from realising that the people who are meant to love and nurture us sometimes fail to meet our emotional needs. But this doesn’t mean that they didn’t love us; it just means that they, too, were limited by their own wounds and limitations.

I’ve heard so many stories of people feeling abandoned or rejected by their parents, and it can make you question, Why didn’t I get the love and care I needed? But here’s what I’ve learned: we were placed in these exact families by God, not by mistake. He knew exactly what we would need to grow into the person He’s calling us to be. It doesn’t make the hurt go away, but it gives us a different perspective on the role our parents have played in our lives.

Setting Boundaries and Protecting Your Heart 💖

As I’ve grown in my faith, I’ve learned that setting healthy boundaries is key when dealing with toxic or dysfunctional relationships. It’s okay to protect your peace and mental health, even if it means keeping some distance. This doesn’t mean you don’t love them; it just means that you’re recognising the need to take care of yourself in a way that honours your relationship with God.

For a long time, I struggled with the idea of setting boundaries. I thought it was wrong to speak up about the things that hurt me. But then I realised that God wants us to be whole. He doesn’t want us to carry the emotional burdens of others, especially when they don’t have the capacity to change or heal themselves. By setting boundaries, I’m not only protecting my heart, but I’m also honouring the journey God has for me.

Giving It to God & Healing Through Faith 💫

One of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned is that I can’t do it alone. I’ve tried to fix things on my own, tried to make things right, but at the end of the day, only God can heal the brokenness in relationships. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” That’s been a life-changing verse for me. Whenever I feel crushed by the weight of my relationship with my parents, I give it to God. I ask Him to heal my heart and to give me the strength to forgive. Sometimes, that means crying out to Him, sometimes it means stepping away from the situation and trusting that He’s working behind the scenes.

If you’re struggling with anger, resentment, or just feeling stuck, I encourage you to bring it to God. He’s the only one who can truly give us peace. And remember, healing is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight, but God is faithful to meet us where we are and carry us through.

Forgiveness 🕊️

Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing hurtful actions. It means releasing the power those actions have over you. Ephesians 4:31-32 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger… Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do, especially when you feel like your parents have wronged you. But I’ve found that forgiveness is more for my peace than for the other person. It’s about letting go of the anger and bitterness that hold us captive and allowing God to bring healing into those painful places.

Finding Peace 🌿

Some days, the pain feels unbearable, and the devil whispers lies into our hearts, telling us that we’re not enough, or that we’ll never be loved the way we long to be. But we must remember, that God is a father to the fatherless. He is our ultimate source of love, validation, and healing.

Whenever I feel the weight of this world’s rejection or the disappointment from my relationships, I turn to God. He always reminds me that I am His daughter and that His love is all I need. It’s taken time for me to believe that, and even longer to accept it truly. But the more I lean into Him, the more I see how much He loves me, and how much He loves you.

A Prayer for Healing ✨

If you’re walking through this journey with me, let’s pray together:

Heavenly Father, I come before You today with a heart that is both heavy and hopeful. I bring before You the pain of my relationship, the hurt that still lingers in my heart. I ask for Your healing touch to restore what is broken and to bring peace where there has been turmoil. Help me to set healthy boundaries and protect my heart, while also extending grace and forgiveness. Lord, I trust that You are working in me and through me. Heal my past, strengthen my present, and guide my future. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

To anyone struggling with difficult relationships, please know you are not alone. It is a journey and it’s okay to take it one step at a time. Whether you’re in the thick of setting boundaries, learning to forgive, or simply figuring out how to process the emotions that come with it all, know that God is with you every step of the way.

Remember, healing doesn’t happen overnight, and you’re not expected to have it all figured out. But as you lean on God, trust His timing, and allow Him to guide your heart, you’ll find peace and clarity in the process.

If today’s blog post resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts or prayers in the comments below. Let’s continue supporting and uplifting each other as we walk this path of faith together.

Until next time, stay encouraged and keep seeking God’s presence. You’ve got this, and He’s got you. God bless you.

Sending love and prayers your way,
Scherise. X