This morning, as I sat quietly with my coffee, the sun poured through the window, filling my space with warmth and light. It was a peaceful moment, a perfect time to reflect on forgiveness, a powerful and sometimes difficult topic. Forgiveness can lead to peace, joy, and blessings from God, but it’s not always easy, especially when those who hurt us don’t acknowledge their actions.
One important insight I’ve learned is that it’s usually easier to forgive people who admit their mistakes. When someone says, “I’m sorry,” it’s much simpler to let go of the hurt. But what happens when the other person refuses to see their faults? It feels like trying to talk to someone who won’t listen at all.
This situation reminds me of some challenging relationships in my life. There have been times when I wanted to express my feelings, but conversations quickly ended because the other person insisted they had done everything right. It’s tough to address problems when the other person won’t accept their part. As it says in Matthew 7:3, “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” This verse highlights that we all have faults we need to recognize and address.
Another powerful lesson I’ve come across is that people hurt others not because there’s something wrong with the victim, but because they are hurting themselves. As Luke 6:31 teaches us, “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” This means that hurt people often lash out at others without realizing the impact of their actions. Until they deal with their pain, they can’t truly heal.
I’ve noticed this pattern in various situations, especially with people who seem to take their unresolved issues out on others. It can be painful when someone projects their insecurities onto you, especially when you are just trying to be supportive.
On a more positive note, my partner and I have made a point to prioritise our spiritual life together. Although he didn’t grow up in a strong Christian environment, going to church has become a meaningful routine for us. This shared time helps strengthen our bond and allows us to grow closer. Matthew 18:20 reminds us, “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Being together in faith is essential for us.
One important truth I’ve learned is that running away from our problems never works. No matter how hard we try, our challenges will find us. The only way to truly overcome them is to face them with God’s help. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” This verse encourages me to confront my issues slowly and with prayer, rather than trying to escape them.
As I continue on this journey of forgiveness and healing, I hold onto the belief that, with God’s help, we can find the strength to face our challenges and mend our broken relationships. Ephesians 4:32 encourages us, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” With this in mind, I strive to approach every situation with love and understanding.
What challenges have you faced in your relationships, and how have you navigated the process of forgiveness? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!
