Hello, my darling,
Welcome back to the blog! I’m so happy you’re here today. As I sit here, curled up in my favourite corner of the living room, I’m surrounded by the warmth of sunlight streaming in through the windows, casting a soft, golden glow over everything. There’s something so calming about mornings like this, where everything seems to slow down, and the space feels peaceful. My sofa is piled with soft blankets and cushions, creating the perfect setting to relax and unwind. Honestly, I could stay here all day and be perfectly content.
I’m sipping on my chai latte, I really do love this tea! The blend of spicy, sweet, and creamy flavours is like a hug in a cup. The steam rising from it and the warmth of the cup in my hands immediately bring me peace. It’s a little moment of happiness in a cup, though let’s be honest, the caffeine probably has something to do with that happiness too.
And of course, I’m dressed in my favourite oversized sweater (because why not cherish comfort?), and fluffy socks to keep me warm. It’s the little things, like cosy socks and a hot drink, that bring so much peace, don’t you think?
Now that we’ve set the mood, I want to talk about something I have been thinking about lately…The Unseen Load of Motherhood.
Motherhood is a blessing, no doubt, but it’s also accompanied by a weight that often goes unseen by most of the world. There is a saying I once heard: “Motherhood is to perish in paradise.” It’s such a paradox, isn’t it? How can something be so fulfilling and so exhausting at the same time? While the world celebrates the smiles and milestones, behind each joyful moment is a mother quietly carrying a multitude of unseen burdens, striving to balance it all, often at the expense of her own peace.
The Burden of Expectations
Today, the expectations placed on mothers can feel like an unrelenting weight. We are called to nurture, educate, guide, and provide for our children, all while managing careers, homes, and relationships. We long for a few quiet moments to rest, maybe read a book or just clear our minds, but the demands are endless. Motherhood asks us to serve selflessly, laying down our own needs for the sake of our children. Christ modelled this kind of servanthood, teaching that true love is found in serving joyfully, even when it’s hard. I strive to serve my family with that same joy, even on the days that feel overwhelming.
The Guilt That Lurks Beneath
Nobody warns you about the guilt that shadows you throughout motherhood. It follows you like a silent friend, whispering that you’re never doing enough. When I’m cleaning, I feel guilty for not spending that time with my daughter. When I work late, I feel guilty for not being home sooner. When I take a moment for myself, I feel guilty for not being more productive. It’s a cycle that feels endless. But through it all, I’m learning to give myself grace. God didn’t intend for us to carry this burden alone, and I remind myself that perfection isn’t His expectation, love is.
The Invisible Mental Load
What many don’t see is the mental load—the constant stream of decisions, reminders, and plans that run through a mother’s mind. From doctor’s appointments to projects, and meal planning to daily schedules, everything seems to fall on our shoulders. It’s an invisible weight, but it’s heavy nonetheless. Some days, it feels like I’m juggling multiple tasks, just trying to keep everything from falling apart. But I’m not alone in this. There’s a community of mothers out there who understand this invisible load. And most importantly, God sees it all, even when the world doesn’t.
Seeking Joy when Exhaustion Kicks in
The weight of motherhood can sometimes make it hard to see the beauty in it all. The endless tasks can cloud the joy that’s right in front of us. My daughter may not remember the sleepless nights or the long, exhausting days, but she will remember the love, laughter, and joy that fills our home. I’m learning to cherish these little moments, even on the hardest days. The Bible reminds us that children are a blessing, and though they require sacrifice, the reward is immeasurable. This truth is something I cling to, especially on the days when I feel like I have nothing left to give.
Finding Rest in Him
True rest isn’t just about sleep, it’s about finding peace in my heart. Matthew 11:28-30 encourages us to bring our burdens to God, for His yoke is easy and His burden is light. This verse has become my anchor, especially during the tough moments. I know that I can’t be the mother God has called me to be without His help. He’s there to carry our burdens with us, and that knowledge is such a comfort. We are never alone in this. Each day, I’m learning to surrender more and trust that He will give me the strength I need.
The Legacy We Leave
Motherhood is about more than just meeting physical needs. It’s about shaping hearts. The choices I make today will echo in my daughter’s life. She might not always understand why I do the things I do, but my prayer is that she will one day look back and see the love, dedication, and faith that held our family together. Even if she does not recognise it now, I know she will. One day, she will see the sacrifice, love, and faith woven into our family’s story.
Motherhood is a journey full of unseen burdens, unyielding love, and strength found in weakness. To every mother carrying the weight of it all, remember, you are not alone. The load you carry is seen by the One who entrusted it to you. Though the burden may feel heavy, so are the blessings it brings.
As I sit here, carefully balancing my chai latte (because, let’s be honest, I’m that person who spills everything), I’m reminded of how precious these quiet moments are, so am going to leave this blog post here and enjoy the rest of my quiet morning.
Sending blessings to you!
Scherise. X
