Hello Darling,

Welcome back to the blog! As a busy, Christian mum with a lively 2-year-old daughter, I’m always reflecting on the things that matter most, especially when it comes to raising my little one in a way that honours God. Right now, as I am sitting in our cosy living room, surrounded by the soft morning light and the scent of coffee in the air, my daughter is playing with her toys, her little giggles filling the space. She’s so focused, her imagination taking her on little adventures with her favourite dolls. It’s peaceful here, but in a beautifully chaotic way.

Today, I’m going to talk about something that’s been on my mind, how we speak to our children.

The Bible tells us in Proverbs 18:21, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” This verse is a powerful reminder of the impact our words can have on our children’s lives. It’s a topic I’ve touched on, and I feel deeply convicted to share my reflections with you today.

The words we speak into the lives of our children can either bring life, encouragement, and faith, or they can wound, discourage, and mislead. As mums, we are their first source of love and guidance. So, how do we make sure our words are filled with the power of life? Let’s talk about what it means to speak life over our kids and why it matters so much.

Words that Plant Seeds

Every word we say to our children is like a seed planted in their hearts. Over time, these seeds grow and shape the way they view themselves and the world around them. I know as parents, we face so many moments of frustration, where it’s easy to slip into negativity. Maybe you’ve had those moments where you catch yourself saying something you immediately regret, and the guilt can be heavy. But there’s grace for us, and God calls us to speak life, to plant seeds of love and faith.

When we speak words of encouragement, we’re not just helping our children feel loved and valued. We’re teaching them about their worth in God’s eyes and showing them that they are capable of doing great things. When I tell my daughter, “You are brave, and God is with you,” I’m reminding her that she has God’s strength within her. This might sound simple, but these small affirmations are like daily prayers over her life.

Letting God’s Word Guide Our Words

One way to ensure that we are speaking life over our children is by letting the Bible guide what we say. Scripture is full of promises and truths that we can speak over our kids. For instance, before bed, I often remind my daughter, “God loves you, and the Holy Spirit is always with you.” This is a blessing and truth that sinks deep into her heart and builds her faith.

If you’re looking for simple affirmations that come from scripture, some of my favourites are, “You are fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14) or “The Lord is with you, mighty warrior” (Judges 6:12). When our children hear these words, they begin to see themselves the way God sees them. It creates a foundation that’s unshakable, no matter what challenges they face in life.

Recognising and Correcting Negative Patterns

Many of us were not raised in environments where we were constantly spoken to with love and life. Some of us grew up hearing words that made us feel small or unworthy, and it takes intention and prayer to break that cycle. If you struggle with speaking negatively, know that you’re not alone, and don’t be afraid to ask God to help you change. Remember, our children are watching us closely. They pick up not only on what we say to them but also how we speak to ourselves and others.

One thing I’ve learned is that when I fail, it’s okay to apologise to my child. I want her to know that I’m human and that I’m constantly growing too. When I lose my patience, I’ll say, “I’m sorry, I should have spoken to you kindly, just like Jesus teaches us to do.” This models humility and shows our children that it’s okay to admit when we’re wrong and seek forgiveness.

Choosing to Speak Life in Everyday Moments

It’s not just in the big conversations that we have the chance to speak life; it’s in the little everyday moments, too. Whether it’s a rushed morning, a tense study session, or a bedtime struggle, we always have the opportunity to infuse love and grace into our words. Sometimes I remind myself to speak softly and deliberately, especially when my daughter is struggling or feeling overwhelmed.

Imagine saying, “I love you no matter what,” or “I’m proud of how hard you’re trying,” even when things aren’t going perfectly. These words become touchstones of reassurance that our children can hold onto. They remind them that our love is not based on their performance but on who they are as beloved children of God.

Praying and Speaking with Intentionality

As Christian parents, we know that we are in a spiritual battle for our children’s hearts and minds. It’s vital to cover them in prayer and intentionally speak words that will build them up. Pray over your children and ask the Holy Spirit to help you speak life. Pray that God will soften your heart and give you wisdom to see the beautiful child He has created.

In moments when you feel weak, ask God to strengthen you. He has a purpose for each of our children, and as parents, we play a crucial role in helping them discover it. By speaking life and love over them, we’re helping them to walk boldly into the calling God has for them.

We may not be perfect, but we can strive to be intentional. When we speak life, we’re not just shaping our children’s present, we’re creating a legacy of faith, resilience, and hope that will carry them through their lives. So today, I encourage you to join me in being mindful of our words. Let’s plant seeds of love, kindness, and faith. Let’s create homes where our children feel safe, valued, and ready to fulfil the beautiful plans God has for them.

Thank you for reading this blog post and allowing me to share this message with you. Let’s keep leaning on God as we raise our children, one life-giving word at a time.

Sending blessings your way!

Scherise. X