Hello, my darling!

Welcome back to the blog! If there’s one thing I’ve realised recently, it’s just how peaceful life can be when you choose to invite a little stillness into your home. At the heart of it all, surrounded by my little family, I’ve started to understand that true peace starts with the thoughts we allow to take root in our minds. It’s not always a loud, dramatic shift, it’s the quiet, consistent moments of surrender that make the biggest difference.

I’ve been reflecting a lot on how our minds can be like a quiet, busy street, constantly bustling with thoughts and fantasies, some helpful, some distracting, and others chaotic. But when I began to let go of the things that I thought I needed to control and started to surrender my thoughts to God, that’s when the real peace started to settle in. And that, my darling, has been the focus of my recent journey, crucifying those fantasies and learning the power of submission.

You know, at home with my little family, I get to experience what true peace feels like. It’s not perfect, but it’s real, and it’s grounded in God’s love. And if you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly battling the noise in your head, trust me, I know how it feels. It’s like trying to find quiet in a room full of noise, but there’s a beautiful stillness that comes when you give God control of the chaos. I want to share a bit of how I’ve been walking this out in my own life and home. So, grab a cup of tea, settle in, and let’s talk about this peaceful battle of the mind and the power of submitting those thoughts to God.

The Temptation of Fantasies

It’s easy to fantasise when life feels difficult, uncertain, or unfulfilled. My fantasies often offer me a temporary escape. When things don’t go as planned or I feel discontent, I tend to drift into these imagined scenarios where everything seems perfect. Whether it’s the picture of a successful career or the perfect version of myself, these thoughts provide a brief sense of peace and satisfaction. However, I’ve learned that these dreams never last. They give me a false sense of comfort, a fleeting moment of joy, but they never truly fulfil me.

I realise now that many of these fantasies stem from things I’ve lacked or desires I haven’t fully surrendered to God. Maybe I long for recognition or approval, or maybe I crave a life of ease and pleasure. These desires are real, but when I allow them to manifest in my mind as fantasies, they take on a life of their own. They start to dictate my happiness and my view of what my life should be like, even though they rarely align with God’s true purpose for me.

The Deceptive Nature of Fantasies

What makes these fantasies dangerous is how easily they pull me away from the present moment. I’ve caught myself thinking about how things could be “if only…” If only I had more success, a better relationship, or a different lifestyle. I started to believe that these imagined scenarios were the answer to my problems, but the truth is that they keep me from engaging with the reality of where I am right now. Instead of focusing on the blessings and lessons of the present, I get lost in the idea of a perfect future that may never come.

The more I dwell in these fantasies, the more I realise they are nothing more than distractions. They stop me from fully appreciating the blessings I have today, my family, my work, my faith. These distractions rob me of the peace that comes from being fully present with God in the here and now.

Fantasies as Idols

What I didn’t realise at first was that these fantasies can become idols. An idol is anything that takes the place of God in my heart, something I look to for satisfaction, fulfilment, or meaning instead of God. As I reflect on my thoughts, I can see how many of my fantasies have become just that, idols. I’ve been looking for success, or approval from others as if those things could fulfil me. But in doing so, I’ve been ignoring God’s provision and plan for my life.

My fantasies about the ideal job, for example, have created unrealistic expectations. Instead of trusting in God’s plan and timing, I’ve looked to these daydreams as a way to fix what feels broken in my life. When these fantasies don’t come to fruition, I end up feeling disappointed and disillusioned. But the truth is, it’s not the fantasies that need to be fixed, it’s my heart and my focus. I need to stop idolising these false versions of success and instead trust God to bring about the real things He has in store for me.

Crucifying My Fantasies

So, what’s the solution? How do I break free from the cycle of fantasizing and allow myself to embrace God’s reality for me? The first step is surrender. I need to give up my right to control what my life looks like and trust that God knows what is best for me. When I submit my fantasies to God, I am acknowledging that His plan is greater than anything I could imagine.

The process of crucifying my fantasies isn’t easy. It requires me to intentionally shift my focus. Instead of letting my mind wander to the imaginary, I need to bring my thoughts back to God and His Word. When I find myself lost in a fantasy, I remind myself of the truth: that God’s plans for me are good, that He is present in my current reality, and that He will provide everything I need in His timing.

One powerful way I’ve learned to do this is by meditating on Scripture. When I focus on the truth of God’s Word, it begins to shape my thoughts. It helps me replace the lies of my fantasies with the reality of His promises. The more I immerse myself in His truth, the less room there is for the fantasies that once consumed me. I am reminded that my worth, success, and satisfaction come not from a dream world, but from God’s love.

Living in God’s Abundant Life

As I give my fantasies to God and focus on His truth, I begin to experience real freedom. This is a freedom that doesn’t depend on the idealized version of life I’ve created in my mind, but on the abundant life God has promised to those who follow Him. It’s the freedom to live fully in the present, trusting that God is working in my life right now, even if things aren’t perfect by my standards.

The more I let go of my fantasies, the more I discovered the beauty of God’s plan for my life. It’s not always glamorous, and it doesn’t always match the image I’ve created in my mind, but it is good. His timing is perfect, and His provision is abundant. As I walk in this truth, I find myself filled with peace and contentment, not because I’ve achieved everything I dreamed of, but because I’ve chosen to surrender my desires to Him.

Finding True Fulfilment in God’s Plan

The fantasies that once ruled my thoughts now seem insignificant in comparison to the life I’ve found in God’s presence. I’ve learned that true fulfilment doesn’t come from chasing after an idealised version of my life or trying to control my future. It comes from trusting in God’s perfect plan, from surrendering my fantasies and desires to Him, and from embracing the reality of His love and provision.

As I continue to crucify my fantasies, I know that the battle will not be easy. It requires discipline, prayer, and a constant focus on God’s truth. But I also know that in the end, the freedom and peace I find in surrendering my fantasies will far outweigh the temporary pleasure of living in an imagined world. God’s reality is far better than any fantasy I could create, and I am learning to trust Him more each day.

So, I choose today to crucify my fantasies. I choose to let go of the dreams that lead me astray and cherish the truth of God’s love and provision. Only in Him will I find the peace, contentment, and fulfilment that my heart truly longs for.

It’s not always as simple as it sounds, especially when the mind can sometimes feel like a whirlwind of distractions, but I promise you, that every little step toward surrender brings a deeper sense of peace.

Behind the scenes, things aren’t perfect. Between the playtime with my little one and trying to keep the house running smoothly, my mind can still get overwhelmed by thoughts and distractions. But when I pause, take a breath, and remember to submit those thoughts to God, everything settles into a peaceful rhythm. It’s funny how, even during the everyday chaos, there’s this quiet, constant peace that we can experience when we choose to trust Him with everything.

So, if you’re feeling like your mind’s a bit of a noisy street right now, I want to encourage you to cherish the stillness. In the quiet moments, amidst the busy family life, you’ll find the peace you need. And it’s not about perfection, it’s about trust. Trust that when you choose to let go of those fantasies, distractions, and worldly thoughts, God will fill your heart with the peace that surpasses all understanding.

Thank you for joining me today, and I pray that whatever battle you’re facing in your mind, you find peace in submitting it all to God. Life might not always be quiet, but with Him, there’s always peace in the storm.

Sending blessings to you!
Scherise. X